You have your choice of how you handle your relationship after cheating is revealed. Cheating while you are in a committed relationship is the most devastating form of betrayal to your partner. Trust and respect is out the window and it will take nothing short of a miracle to earn it back again.
If you truly want to try to save your relationship after you’ve been unfaithful it will be an uphill climb and you had better make sure you’re going to be strong enough to commit to it fully.
If you don’t, and you let your partner down one more time, this time by not being able to see the situation through to the end,it will really be unforgivable.
You may get frustrated because there will likely be times when it seems like everything is going well and the two of you are doing well than all of a sudden your partner goes off on you and brings up your infidelity.
That’s just something that you’ll have to learn to live with.
More than likely your partner didn’t mean to blindside you, it’s just that the hurt you caused them probably blindsided them and they reacted accordingly, unfortunately that’s just what happens in a relationship after cheating.
In many cases it will be very beneficial if you and your partner find a good counselor to go to.
Many people are reluctant to do this, especially those that did the cheating, because it can be uncomfortable to have your dirty laundry aired in front of a stranger. Even with that issue, it’s still possibly the best shot you’ll have of working through these very difficult and painful issues in your relationship.
If the two of you are left to your own devices it’s very likely that you’ll be too involved in your own guilt, anger, and frustration to really deal with the issues head on. A counselor can help act as a sort of ‘referee’.
They can help each of you keep your cool and only communicate in a productive way instead of falling into a pattern of fighting and arguing.
A counselor can also help you both deal with the causes of the infidelity.
Unless you are someone who is just a cheater, that is simply a sign of insecurity and immaturity, than there was something that lead to the cheating. I’m not saying that makes it ok…it’s never ok to break a promise.
But unless the issues that lead to the cheating is defined and solved your relationship will always suffer, even if there is no more cheating.
So, in conclusion, it’s never ok to cheat, when you make a promise to be faithful to someone you should keep it so be careful when you make those promises.
It’s very, very hard to come back from cheating but it may be possible to salvage your relationship after cheating even though it may be necessary to find someone to help the two of you work it out.