I have been in a very happy relationship for seven years. We are middle-aged and usually have an enthusiastic and satisfying sex life. With menopause, however, my partner's sexual desire has reached zero. She has no interest in intimacy and sees no change in the future. She said I should find someone else to satisfy this part of my life and repeated it over and over. I am reluctant to do so, but the temptation is getting stronger. Another complicating factor is my uncertain future as I am recovering from cancer treatment. I am afraid I am entering a minefield, with potential disaster wherever I go.
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