If you think your partner is cheating on you and feel that you have a reason to be suspicious you may be able to do a little creative detective work on your own and find out the truth. If you don’t want to do this on your own you can also look into hiring a private investigator to follow your partner and let you know definitively whether or not your partner is cheating on you. Hiring a private investigate can be costly though so if you can do a little investigating on your own you might be able to avoid this cost.
While you may be able to investigate on your own to find your answer you should make sure that before you begin your investigation you are prepared for the answers you may receive. If you have your suspicions about your partner, you probably already realize that the relationship is in trouble but you also need to be ready for a revelation that could put an end to the relationship.
If you share credit cards or phones, these statements could become part of your investigation. Review the credit card bill each month to search for suspicious charges. Repeated hotel charges or charges to flower shops can be an indication that your spouse is cheating especially if you haven’t received flowers from your partner lately and haven’t spent nights in a hotel recently.
The phone bill can also give you some clues as to whether or not your partner is cheating. Be wary of frequent calls to a phone number that you do not recognize. If you find these suspicious phone charges either call the number yourself or have a friend do it.
You may find that it’s a friend or relative who must have gotten a new phone number unbeknownst to you or you may find that it is someone with whom your partner is having an affair. If you call the number and find that it belongs to someone you don’t know, try to get some information about their involvement with your partner without being judgmental about them.
It is important to remember that this person may not even know that the person they are seeing is involved in another relationship. Another way to use credit card and phone statements as investigative tools is to ask your partner straight out about suspicious charges. If they have reason to be ashamed about the charges, their reaction will most likely give you the answers you were seeking.
Another deceptive way to catch a cheating partner is to ask questions about where they are going and take note, without their knowledge, of the mileage on the odometer before they leave and after they return. If you know where they are going you can use the Internet to determine the mileage to the location where they said they would be.
When they return, make and excuse to go into the car and while you are there check the current mileage. If it doesn’t match up with what you expected from your earlier investigation, confront your partner about it. If they seem to have trouble explaining where they have been, it may be an indication that they are cheating.
Asking a lot of detailed questions can be another way to catch a cheating partner. If your partner is going somewhere without you, ask questions about where they will be and who they will be with. After they leave, wait a few minutes and then try driving to the place where they had told you they would be. If you don’t find their car parked where they had said they were going, this may also be an indication that your partner is cheating. Again confront them on this and see if they can offer a valid explanation for not being where they said they would be.
Still another way to catch a cheating partner is to pay careful attention to details. This will allow you to pick up on inconsistencies in what your partner tells you. If you often catch them in seemingly little, white lies or if they frequently offer contradicting information about where they have been, you may have a partner who is cheating on you.
Catching a cheating partner may not be a pleasant experience but it is better to find out the truth sooner than later. As unpleasant as it may be, if you have your suspicions about your partner cheating there is a very good chance that you have a reason to be suspicious. Whether you investigate on your own or enlist the help of a private investigator, catching a cheating partner may not be a difficult task.