Your relationship seems to have soured a bit and to fix it you have been looking for advice on how to be a sweet girlfriend. The fact of the matter is that you can only do so much to bring some life back into your relationship.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you can fix a broken relationship all on your own, you can’t and you shouldn’t try. If one person puts a lot more into the relationship than the other, it’s just an unfair situation.
One person can easily become a door mat and that is never a good situation.
If you feel like you’ve let your behavior slide a little bit, and you’re just not being as considerate as you once were, than by all means, try to get back to the way you used to be.
It happens in most long term relationships, each person starts to get a little more at ease and let a little more of themselves out, sometimes that’s not always a good thing.
If you’ve both begun to do that, you may want to discuss the situation and both promise to try and do better.
If the two of you can talk about these issues calmly and both agree to try and cut out the behaviors that bug your partner the most, things can be better almost immediately.
When it comes to learning how to be a sweet girlfriend there is no one size fits all solution but there are two things you can keep in mind. One, treat your guy the way you want him to treat you. That’s good relationship 101.
If you wouldn’t like him to not say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ than don’t do that to him.
If you wouldn’t like it if he didn’t call if he was going to be late, than don’t do that to him. You get the point. Treat him the way you’d like him to treat you.
Second, try to respect his wishes. For example, even if you wouldn’t care about a certain thing, like calling if you’re going to be late, if you know he does care about that than respect it.
Each person will have their own unique attitudes about all kinds of situations, sometimes the two of you will agree on these attitudes, sometimes you won’t.
That’s ok, just try as much as possible to respect his ideas.
So, if he’s a stickler about punctuality (even though you may not really care that much) try to be on time when you’re meeting him.
Of course, you don’t need to, and shouldn’t, completely rearrange your whole personality to accommodate your boyfriends likes and dislikes, but a few compromises such as I explained above, really won’t hurt anything.
In fact, it can also make you a better and more considerate person too. You can both be happy.
Learning how to be a sweet girlfriend isn’t hard and it isn’t rocket science.
For the most part it’s just about being considerate and affectionate. It’s not about doing everything that your boyfriend wants you to do or being at his beck and call, that’s a doormat, not a girlfriend.
Also published on Medium.